I know it’s not local, but I read this recently and it put a burr under my saddle that I need to get out. I’ll apologize ahead of time for sounding a little like a liberal whack job, but to quote the great philosopher Popeye, ”I’ve had all I can stands, ‘cause I can’t stands no more!”
A federal court in Massachusetts has ruled that the Defense of Marriage Act is unconstitutional. Check out a news article here: http://www.comcast.net/articles/news-general/20100709/US.Gay.Marriage.Benefits/
For info on DOMA specifically check this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Defense_of_Marriage_Act (I know, I know…Wikipedia public editing…yadda, yadda…it’s a jumping off point. Shut it.)
Anyway, I don’t really want to get involved in trying to sort out the legal tangles. It just gives me a headache.
Let’s bottom line this, shall we? Should gay people have the right to get married? Not “legal union” not “domestic partnership,” but marriage?
The correct answer is YES.
The bigger question for me is: Why do you care?
Exactly what does the “Defense of Marriage Act” defend marriages from? It seems like we’re talking about defending the word “marriage” itself and, quite frankly, who give a rat’s ass? We are spending billions of dollars and thousands of the courts man-hours on semantics? Let it go.
Riddle me this if you will: if the homosexuals that live down the street from you (and yes…they live down the street from you…) get married, how does it affect YOU in any way, shape, or form? How does their “marriage” affect your marriage or family in any way? How does it infringe upon your right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness?
It doesn’t. It no more affects your marriage than does the marriage of the hetero couple on the other end of the street.
And seriously SPARE ME the B.S. argument about having to explain it to your kids. That ship has sailed. Gay people already exist and they walk around and live together and whether or not we keep them from getting married isn’t going to change that.
And please-please-please-PLEASE do not give me a Biblical argument. In terms of the law, Biblically based arguments are null and void as far as I am concerned. We are NOT a Christian nation. We are a nation of many religions. (First person who comments that our laws are based on Judeo-Christian principles is the proud winner of my 25 page report on the subject. It contains the Treaty of Tripoli in full and several letters between the founding fathers. The whole thing is long and boring and CORRECT. We are not a Christian nation. You won’t and can’t win that argument with me, so move on.)
We are free to worship as we wish. Whether you are a Christian or Jewish or a pagan or you worship the great Satan himself, it’s your call alone. Ergo – if a gay couple can find a church/temple/mosque/whatever that is willing to marry them, then obviously they have found a religion that’s cool with gayness and gay marriage. So that argument is gone too.
A few months ago, former Lt. Governor-turned-embattled RNC head Michael Steele made what I call the “insurance” argument. Basically (I’m paraphrasing here) if we allow gay marriage then businesses will have to provide insurance benefits to gay couples and that will be pretty pricey.
With all due respect, sir – that sounds like an argument against ALL marriage. So let’s forget that argument too.
Then there’s the “civil union” argument, which goes like this: It’s ok if gays want to be together, but why can’t they call it civil union? Why does it need to be “marriage”?
Semantics. Again. Let it go.
Let’s get to what I believe is the real crux of the issue: you don’t like gays. You don’t like seeing them together. You think it’s tasteless or sinful or gross. You bare no ill-will towards homosexuals, but you just don’t like it. Fine. You don’t have to. But we can’t just outlaw things we don’t like. If we could, I would at this minute be in DC lobbying for the end of “So You Think You Can Dance?”
How about this: if you really want to defend marriage – work on your own. Nearly 6 out of 10 marriages in this country end up in divorce. I am almost certain that has nothing to do with the issue of gay marriage. If marriage needs defending it is from the enemies within, not the big scary gay invaders.
In other words – mind your own damn business. If you are not gay, it is none of your damn business. We have ACTUAL problems in the country. Gay marriage isn’t one of them. Let’s work on a few of those and forget the semantics.
(BTW – hot tip for the GOP: Gay marriage? Seriously, get off of it. Like myself, there are a lot of people who a very conservative, but they are smart enough to realize that the gay marriage issue is a stupid one to worry over. My opinion? There are LOTS of big name GOP candidates who agree with me 100%. The reality is they are pandering to the older Bible-thumpers in the party who, sadly, have all the money. In other words, they are telling Grandpa what he wants to hear so that Grandpa will pony up for a shiny new bike come election time.)
I promised, so here it is.
Last month, my band the Mobtown Saints was playing Bally’s in Atlantic City. Great spot. We play there a lot. It had been a weird road trip already.
It started in Shaun the drummer’s driveway in Abingdon. The GPS says 96.5 miles. We drove 45 minutes and I swear to God the GPS said 115 miles to go. New rule: Shaun doesn’t get to drive anymore. He drives like an old lady and insists on taking back roads. They are in fact NOT faster. (love you pal).
Anyway, when we arrive and get on stage in our crowd is: Sebastian Bach of 80’s hair band Skid Row, Bam Margera from Jackass, Aaron Lewis from Staind, and Danny Bonaduce of the Partridge Family.
Had we put the names of 1,000 celebs in a hat, we’d never been able to come up with a more random crew. They hung with us all night – although I am not sure any of them knew where they were. They had a pretty decent head start on the night based on the number of empties around them.
After we wrapped at 2 a.m., we headed out of town and reflected on the weirdness of the evening at a Dunkin Donuts. Mikey the guitar player says, “How much weirder could the night have gotten?” The words had barely left his mouth when the bus full of nuns pulled up…
(Shameless plug – the Saints will be playing in Harco at “Half Pints” aka the old Torinos on 7/17 come see us)
Next week – everyone wants a more specific update on Rouse. I’m going to go see him soon, so full report next week.